Secretly Unstable

I have been told I am crazy, funny, a good cook, and a decent blogger. These are the expectations I am trying to live up to. Thank you.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Drama, not for this mama...

I have this amazing talent for keeping friends that are awesome, and ditching the ones that are... well... just lousy at being friends. I can honestly say that I don't have anyone in my life that drags me down. No one that creates drama and is a selfish freak. No one that makes me feel like crap. I am pretty proud.

It might seem obvious, don't be friends with assholes. But if we all think about our lives we usually have people that are around us that are less than the company that we deserve. People who may have gotten into the inner circle before you realized, this person is a whack job. Sometimes it is difficult to get rid of the person. You think that it is you and not them. You have too many other connections to them, like you have common friends, work together, or see them a lot. Or the worse, you are actually thriving on their drama. I have learned though that eventually you wake up and realize: It is them and I am not really enjoying this person's company. And all of those connections usually fix themselves: like everyone else realizes they are an asshole, you leave that job, or you get that just because you see them a lot you don't actually have to be their friend.

Now, just because I don't see a person doesn't mean I ditched them because they are crazy. The people that I realized are toxic friends are really out of my life. I don't think about them or miss them. I am not their Facebook friend. And they definitely do not get a Holiday card. Something happens (most likely something in the "last straw" category) and I just walk away. (sometimes figuratively and sometimes literally.)

I suggest that more people do the same. You don't need a huge fight. You don't need to send a goodbye email. You just have to realize, "this person sucks, there are too many awesome people to be around and too little time." And then everything else falls into place. You start making plans with the awesome people,  you stop communicating with the crazy-asses. And when you see them you just smile and say hi. You are smiling cause you don't actually have to spend any time with them. And it is amazing.